words matter

It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.    James 3:5-6 MSG

let’s think for a second about words.

When I say marriage, a certain image or emotion is attached to that in your spirit. When I say death, you might think of a spider you squished, or your favorite aunt that passed away. When I say love, someone’s face becomes clearer in your mind’s eye. Why do these things happen? It’s really just letters stringed together and sounded out. All the letters come with threads of emotions, thoughts, memories, culture attached to them and then specifically tailored to your own individual human experience. Words matter.


I used to be pretty careless with what I said to people. I always thought to myself, ” well i’m only joking, they know im joking, and they shouldn’t take it so seriously.” That was my blanket statement that I used as a defense. I could be as mean as I wanted to be as long as i threw a “no offense” at the end of the rant. Looking back, I wonder how many people I hurt with that mentality. I could mean something totally trivial in jest, but words have weight. They matter. I could have really spoken some terrible things into people’s lives without even realizing it.

I used to be even more careless in the words and thoughts I had towards myself. Anytime I would stumble in my walk, or in life in general, I would berate myself with negativity. I can be my own worst enemy. No one was going to make me feel worse than me. Whether it was my looks, personality, lack of this, lack of that, no subject was off limits in the constant full-on assault to myself. I realized a pattern, the more I would tell myself that I didn’t deserve a good guy, the more emotionally depraved men would come knocking on my door. The more I would tell myself I’ll never fit into that dress, the more I would frequent fast food stops. The more I would tell myself that I deserved to be alone, the more I would isolate myself from my friends. I was speaking those words into existence.

Coming back to Christ really made me think about the weight of my words. If the one who created the entire universe, who laid His life down for me, who believes I am the apple of His eye, LOVES me so much, why on earth would I treat myself and others with anything less? That can be as simple as the words that come out of my mouth.

I think we live in a world that everyone has an opinion and is very quick to share it through the mask of social media. I mean, its kinda what I’m doing right now right?

Nowadays everybody wanna talk like they got something to say
But nothing comes out when they move their lips
Just a bunch of gibberish

Dr. Dre

In this world of words, opinions, blogs, vlogs, posts, snaps, tweets, blah, blah, blah what are you ACTUALLY SAYING?! We are witnessing firsthand how 140 characters in the wrong hands can have lasting and huge political implications. Let’s whittle that down to the day to day! Are you constantly grumbling about your job? Are you constantly grumbling about your husband? Are you constantly complaining about your church or the sermon that wasn’t specifically tailored to your every whim? WORDS MATTER. The words we say to each other, the words we say to ourselves, the words we put out into the world. They have an impact.

I want to challenge you as a reader. You’re reading MY words, and I’m actively praying that they WILL strike into your heart. Ask yourself, am I speaking LIFE into my situation? Am I speaking ENCOURAGEMENT into my friends? Am I speaking LOVE like Jesus? Remember that you have the power in that tiny muscle in your mouth to make someones day or ruin it. To save someone’s life or destroy it. Tend to your weapon carefully children of God. It can make or break you.